This is the book that I had no idea I needed to read, but God had other plans. Indeed he did. Unglued is the latest release from Lysa TerKeurst, New York Times bestselling author, National Speaker, and President of Proverbs 31 Ministries.
I don’t do many book reviews on my blog. When I do, they are arts and crafts or sewing related. I tend to steer away from Christian book reviews, but I was contacted about reviewing Unglued and for some reason unbeknownst to me at the time I said I would. The moment that I opened the book I knew that The Lord had brought me to this book. When I started reading I felt like Lysa was writing just for me. It was as if she had shined a flashlight into my heart and was illuminating the ugly places, but in a way that encouraged me. Let me tell you why.
Have you ever had one of those days? You know the one. You just finished folding a stack of laundry in the family room only to have it demolished by your crazy children, who are running around in their underwear again because they can’t seem to keep their clothes on. The couch pillow are on the floor again, along with the throw blanket, and what’s that you hear from the bathroom? “Mom, I think the toilet is clogged up!” So you go to see what is going on only to hear screams from the family room where your boys are torturing each other. WHEN WILL IT STOP??? You lose it.
“What is wrong with you two??? I can’t leave you alone for two seconds without you trying to kill eachother! Do you care at all that you are driving me crazy??? Why can’t you act like normal children???” (Oh wait-they are.) It feels so good to explode and let all of your frustration out. It’s a release. But then, as Lysa writes, the regret comes. What kind of mother speaks to her children that way? I’m supposed to speak encouraging words, not words to guilt and shame them. Shame soon replaces the feelings of regret and you feel like the worst mother in the world.
Does this ever happen to you? It happens to me, at least a few times a week, and I hate that I act this way. Do you know what the problem is? I hate being out of control. I am a control freak. Yes, I am. I know that I am (another one of those things that I beat myself up about). Here’s where Unglued fits in…
“Lysa TerKeurst admits that she, like most women, has had experiences where others bump into her happy and she comes emotionally unglued. We stuff, we explode, or we react somewhere in between. What do we do with these raw emotions? Is it really possible to make emotions work for us instead of against us? Yes, and in her usual inspiring and practical way, Lysa will show you how. Filled with gut-honest personal examples and biblical teaching, Unglued will equip you to: Know with confidence how to resolve conflict in your important relationships. Find peace in your most difficult relationships as you learn to be honest but kind when offended. Identify what type of reactor you are and how to significantly improve your communication. Respond with no regrets by managing your tendencies to stuff, explode, or react somewhere in between. Gain a deep sense of calm by responding to situations out of your control without acting out of control.”
“Responding to situations out of your control without acting out of control.” That is what I want to learn to do. Does this sound anything like you? When raw emotions hit do you explode or stuff them down? Would you like to learn how to make wise choices in the midst of raw emotions?
Unglued is changing me. Just recognizing the way that I react to raw emotions and putting a name to it is a tremendous help to me. Lysa’s candid and honest (not to mention funny) book is a new tool in helping me make what she calls “imperfect progress”. None of us are perfect, but we can make progress, can’t we? I can’t say enough about this book and what a blessing it has been to me.
Unglued is a must read for any Christian woman… not just moms, mind you. Any. Woman. Not sure if it’s for you? Why not take this little Unglued assessment? Are you an Exploder or a Stuffer? Aren’t you dying to know?
Now for the fun part…I am so happy to be able to giveaway copies of Unglued to two Southern Institute readers. I think you all are the best readers in the world, so being able to bless you with this book is my way of saying thank you! Of course if you want to go ahead and buy the book, you can do so here.
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FTC regulations require I disclose that I received this book for free for review purposes. All opinions are my own and honest.